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Have you read Susan Cain's book Quiet? I'll admit that it's one of the books on my far-too-long list of books waiting to be read, but I'm intrigued by the idea and thankful it exists. I'm a serious introvert, and it seems to be an aspect of my personality that only grows as I age. Or maybe I'm just leaning into it more - either way, it's something I'm much more aware of now than I was five years ago.
Some people are surprised to hear that as a small business owner, a life coach, and a public speaker, I still consider myself introverted. How can that be, when I spend so much of my day talking to people and large groups? Being introverted doesn't mean that I'm shy or awkward, it means that I prefer and crave alone time to process and recharge. I spend a lot of time in my head - thinking, creating, articulating, and dreaming. Being in my head is a natural state of being for me, while sharing those thoughts with the world is a process that requires conscious effort.
I have zero shame in my introversion game, and I 'm a big proponent of working with your natural tendencies rather than against them. I'm even working on some self-care tips for introverts (coming soon!). However, sometimes it can be helpful to hack our own tendencies, in order to reap specific benefits.
One of the biggest challenges in being a small business owner and an introvert is mastering the art of networking. And believe me, it's definitely an art! It's also not a playing field only for extroverts: your presence as an introvert at these functions actually elevates the conversation. As Cain mentions in her book, small talk often feels like a death sentence to introverts, which is one reason we can feel incompatible with the concept of networking as a whole. So by mastering how you want to show up and share your ideas, you're contributing to making the entire experience more meaningful and connection focused for everyone. Pretty sweet, right?
These are the 5 tips I use to ensure a powerful experience when I'm prepping for a networking event.Read More
I see this hold back so many women from being confident about themselves and sharing their skills with the world - and I don't want that for you! You do NOT have to be an expert to be confident, all you need are a few tools. Spoiler alert: you already have everything you need.
Disclaimer: my videos are super casual and not edited to perfection. I'd rather share this with you than mess with the technical details! :) Enjoy!
Stay tuned in the weeks ahead for more videos, addressing my top three practices you can use to build up your own confidence!
I'm a life coach, so this might sound obvious - but I love all things personal development.
At any given time, I've got 25 books stacked up waiting to be read about productivity, mindset and meditation. I have a morning routine (some days, not all!) that brings me into alignment. I try to do yoga several times a week, journal, and limit my screen time. I could browse Pinterest for hours, just reading about life hacks and how to make myself a better, happier, more efficient person.
I love personal development because it challenges me to reject complacency. It shakes me up and forces me to look critically at the way I'm doing things - am I living my fullest version of life? Or am I just used to doing things this way? Are there small tweaks I could make to live more mindfully and improve my quality of life?
Just like every hobby, though, it's possible to take personal development too far.
Sometimes I feel overwhelmed by the number of books and courses I've purchased but haven't finished. It's easy to feel guilty if my morning routine doesn't happen, or if I skip yoga twice in one week. There are days when even keeping up my bullet journal (a tool that seriously helps my anxiety and makes my day to day more manageable) feels like a chore.
I'm here to say that if you relate to this, you're not alone. There's a fine line between personal development and self improvement burnout.
If you've ever felt guilty or overwhelmed at the idea of starting new routines, fostering new habits or changing career paths, that's totally normal. If you buy self help books and don't read them, nobody cares. If you only meditate for two minutes before turning on your favorite podcast, I don't give a fuck. If something isn't working for you right now, it shouldn't cause you shame - just let it go. Don't forget that your life is yours to LIVE.
While personal development can provide valuable resources to get you through some challenging times, I hope you never feel guilt about being where you are.
Even if you don't know where you're headed, what your purpose is, or who your people are - you're still perfect. Today. Right where you are.
Allow the tools of this industry to support you in living a life you love, not creating an over regulated and shame generating prison, because that will only make you miserable.
My challenge to you today might seem unconventional from a coach who focuses on clarity and planning - but I want you to use today as a chance to quit. Quit a book, a course, a routine or an obligation that makes you feel shitty, even if you think it's for your "higher good." Accept the lack of clarity or lack of drive or sense of confusion and refuse to judge yourself for it. And rest assured, when you're ready to pick up some tools again, I'll be here to help you out.
Are you suffering from personal development burnout? Let me know in the comments what your experience has been like, and how you're quitting the things that don't serve you.