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How the hell do I find clarity?

October 30, 2016 Laura Weldy

One of the top requests I hear from women I work with is a desire for clarity. They are confused, bored, and don't believe that following their own path is possible. Above all else, they’re discouraged because they don’t even know what that path would look like. They want to know what’s "wrong" with them that they don’t know what their dream is. Why don’t they have a vision, when it seems like everyone around them does?

It's not your fault. We aren't conditioned to dream big. Trust me, I’ve been there. It’s what got me interested in coaching in the first place! I was working jobs I thought I should be proud of, but I felt like such a failure. Every time I tried to read a self help book, it began with an assumption that I had my big dream or goals already mapped out in my mind. I would totally shut down, throw the book across the room, and head back to my Netflix binge. Super productive. 

People often ask me how I found clarity and the career of my dreams. I want to laugh and cry, thinking about how roundabout my own path has been, and how incapable of answering this question I feel. Clarity for me won't look like clarity for you. Pursue it anyway. Demand it anyway.

While it's not your fault if you lack clarity, it is your fault if you stay there. You're a boss. Bosses pull it together, and move forward, even if they're stepping into a foggy future. The intention and the steps are what bring the clarity.

What I understand now is that clarity is a moment, not a state of being. If you’re looking to be in a constant state of clarity, you can’t help but get frustrated and disappointed, because it’s so unrealistic! What you’re looking for are those intuitive strokes of genius, the ideas that you get excited about, the obvious choice when you reach the fork in the road. 

I’ve worn glasses since the first grade (honestly, it was adorable), so the easiest analogy for me to understand is that achieving clarity is like cleaning your lenses. If you’re looking at the world through a confused fog with smudged and dirty lenses, it’s difficult to see where you’re headed. You’re probably frustrated and suffering from a headache. When you’re able to clean your lenses, suddenly the world seems bright. Everything comes into focus, and you feel a sense of relief and joy. 

Of course, they always smudge again (for me, within minutes). That’s ok! You still had your moment of clarity, and it will come around again. If you have to bumble around a bit between cleanings, it doesn’t mean you’re a failure-it’s just life. 

Are you ready to dig into this concept of clarity and what it means for you? Snag your copy of my clarity creation worksheet here!

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Something that’s come up over and over this week with my clients: after each expansion, we can expect a contraction.
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It can be a mindset contraction, where old fears pop up from their hiding places to cause chaos.
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It can be a energetic contraction, where we feel depleted and stretched to the point that we hide away from all of our commitments.
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It can be a financial contraction, where we self sabotage our own attempts to earn because we are freaked out by the expansion on the horizon.
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The problem is that we tend, as women, to make the contraction part of the process mean something about us. If we are having doubts, feel depleted or are self sabotaging we start to feel like it is just evidence that we aren’t meant for this. That “something bigger” is out of our reach because clearly we can’t handle it.
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If we learn to embrace the contraction as simply a part of the process (and, if you’re radical, PROOF that expansion is imminent), the shame falls away. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
What area of your life are you feeling constricted in? Where is the possible expansion?
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When you teach what you know, everyone benefits. And, believe it or not, women want more than inspiration and listicles. We want real connection, we want to be challenged, and we crave genuine support.
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My mission isn’t just to inspire you - but to send you off with a clear idea of your message in the world, a better way to advocate for yourself, and the confidence to jump into collaborative leadership. No more waiting for opportunities to come your way. No more hoping someone will notice you and promote you.
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How do we create this experience? Through cutting out all the noise and deepening your connection to yourself. Through focusing on your values over your value, your intention over your missteps. .
What’s currently guiding your work in the world - your values, or your fear??
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P.S. Want to learn more about these in person experiences for your workplace? DM me for a sneak peek!
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Did you know that I, like millions of Americans, suffer from anxiety & depression? Yep. It's not glamorous, but it's important to talk about. Because a key part of being well is being mentally healthy - and what's worked for me is embracing both a reactive healing process through therapy and a proactive lifestyle design process, supported with coaching. And that combo is what I want for all my clients as well!
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Today I'm sharing some thoughts on @thrive about my own experience with mental wellness, and why one of my 6 techniques for being well is prioritizing laughter.
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"I prioritize laughter: One of the core tenets of my life coaching practice is that our personal work doesn’t need to be serious all the time. We can give ourselves grace and a bit of space to laugh and enjoy ourselves as we build happy, healthy lives."
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Learn more by reading the piece (link in bio!). xxx .
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PS thank you to @amberulmer, @_tianalewis and @jennaclarek for the photos in this post and in the article!!! Couldn’t do it without you boss babes.
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Yesterday @jennaclarek and I took some photos in the freezing cold. After she sent over my images, I fell in love with so many of them. This was one that made me hypercritical - why didn’t I brush my hair? I should have angled my head differently. I look TIRED. Should I get Botox??
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I asked @bertng, my partner of five years, to look at the pictures and this is what he chose as his favorite without knowing the intense internal critique going on in my head. And it reminded me of the power of love, and seeing ourselves with the same grace that our sweethearts do.
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And it feels so much better.
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Here’s to a Sunday full of grace.
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