Be a better leader: prioritize self-reflection!

 
Leaders often feel burnt out and stretched thin. Self-reflection has proven to be an effective tool to energize and engage leaders. Try these tips to feel more excited about your work and impact!

If you didn’t know this before, hear me now: I am a hugeeeee nerd when it comes to understanding how our minds and bodies work to create our daily experience. I’m much more likely to be found reading a research paper on a Friday night than out and about in Nashville. And sometimes I stumble across things I just HAVE to share with you…like this recent discovery that validates the entire personal development industry.

I mean, no big deal or anything. 😂

Here’s the core takeaway that I want you to know:

Research shows that leaders who practice self-reflection on a daily basis are more engaged in their work (and able to fully exude presence and leadership to others as a result).

They’re also less likely to be burnt out, AND - this is a big one - they actually feel more energized.

Even without that third cup of coffee, these leaders are energized from within about their work. Doesn’t that sound incredible? 1

Let’s break down why that matters for all of us.

We’re all on our own leadership journey, whether we have the title we’ve always wanted or not. Leadership development is an active process that requires a willingness to become more self-aware every day. On top of that not-so-light load is the fact that you’re often being asked to expand your energetic space - holding more room for new people, new ideas, and more oversight and tasks, and taking on uncomfortable situations and conversations on a daily basis.

It’s no surprise that many leaders are feeling drained, disengaged, and even overly protective of their energetic resources.

But this research shows us that the simple solutions can actually be wildly effective. You are beyond capable of holding space for all of these aspects of your role and for continuing to expand in future roles - but it’s critical that you create routines that allow you to stay in energetic alignment.

When leaders are able to switch from the reactive, hoarding, stress-filled attitude to one of proactive, engaged and generous everyone’s experience improves. Our work gets better, the work of people around us gets better, and frankly - it feels better. It’s more fun.

Adding self-reflection to your plate doesn’t need to be overwhelming. Keep it simple to reap the benefits! I’ve included some of my favorite resources below for incorporating a bit more intentionality and for making those conscious connections between your actions and the impact it has on other people, below. Give one or more of them a shot for the next week, and take note of whether you feel more energized and excited about your work!

Ideas to incorporate self-reflection into your life for massive leadership benefits:

  • Create a simple morning or evening reflection routine. Grab a piece of paper and ask yourself: What was the most impactful thing I did today? How did I show up in my power? What am I excited about nurturing or creating in the months ahead? What is one thing that makes my leadership stronger?

  • Arrive at work ten minutes early and spend that time looking over your day’s calendar. Pick one interaction to be intentional about.

  • Work with a coach to analyze your unique strengths as an individual leader, and to ensure that you’re structuring your day to day in a way that utilizes those strengths effectively. You can message me here for more information about how I can support you as your coach!

  • Pick an individual you often work with, and ask how you might be able to support them.

  • Meditate on the question: What makes me a unique leader to my community?

You need to prioritize self-reflection to be a better leader! Leaders often feel burnt out and stretched thin. Self-reflection has proven to be an effective tool to energize and engage leaders. Try these tips to feel more excited about your work and impact!

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The #1 limiting belief that's holding creative women in biz back

 
Laura Weldy, Life coach and leadership mentor for creative business owners, breaks down the most common limiting belief that keeps women in creative business from reaching their next level of success. It's not what you think it is - definitely a must read!

Limiting beliefs: we've all got 'em. And this might just be the most COMMON one I see with women in creative business that are already successful - and on track to uplevel again. These women are often a bit afraid of what comes next, because they have a limiting belief that expansion always leads to exhaustion.

If this is you, don't worry. I totally get it! It's easy to look around at everything you've built, to feel immense pride, and at the same time to start running the numbers in your head. How long did it take you to build this? How much time, energy and weekend fun time did you invest to get here? How much more do you have left to give? Suddenly, you feel too tired to even consider expanding any further. You want a fuckin' nap.

When you feel like it takes everything you've got just to stay on the hamster wheel, it's hard to think about expansion. You're afraid of overextending yourself - so you swing a bit too far in the opposite direction, avoiding any opportunity for growth (this piece happens subconsciously much of the time). 

Expansion does not need to always be paired with exhaustion. That's one bullshit limiting belief. And it's really convincing, because many of us DO feel exhausted.

In fact, if you are holding tight to this idea it's probably a strong indicator that it's time for you to do the deep work of personal development - because it often comes from a lack of personal boundaries, energy leakage and lack of respect for self. 

It's totally okay if this is where you're at right now - but listen up, because I don't want you to be stuck here for too long.

This feeling of overwhelm and spinning wheels is not your new norm.

It's a message from your subconscious to actually slow down, re-evaluate, and tweak your processes and mindset to feel more nourishing. It's a chance to step back from reactionary responses and sink into your restorative mind. You know the one I'm talking about - the quiet, still place that you usually ignore in favor of to do lists or Netflix binges while you're putting in hours on your creative biz.

 At the end of the day, when you run a creative business, you're the one in charge of your experience. And the fact that past seasons have resulted in exhaustion does not mean that your next season must. In fact, just on the other side of this limiting belief that growth = exhaustion is a much more empowering perspective: my stillness facilitates expansion. 

As we shift out of the hustle mindset and into a leadership based one, we're often challenged to replace activity with stillness. Of course, you'll still be working - and it may feel like your days are busier than ever. But what sets you apart as a leader in your business and your industry is not necessarily the action you're taking every day, but your ability to be with the growth that's coming to you. Your ability to witness and persevere, continue to show up, and choosing to enjoy the process. 

Because I know you know this - but I'll say it again. Choosing to be a leader should be about YOU committing to being the best version of yourself - not just a slapdash choice made to support others. You'll learn how to truly support them by starting with truly supporting you. - limiting beliefs and all.

What now? Take stock of your own limiting beliefs, and let me know if this is one of yours in the comments below! 

 
Laura Weldy, Life coach and leadership mentor for creative business owners, breaks down the most common limiting belief that keeps women in creative business from reaching their next level of success. It's not what you think it is - definitely a must read!
Laura Weldy, Life coach and leadership mentor for creative business owners, breaks down the most common limiting belief that keeps women in creative business from reaching their next level of success. It's not what you think it is - definitely a must read!