5 ways to align with your life's purpose every day

Women's Life Coach - Life Purpose - Personal Development Coach

It starts when we’re young, just learning how to string sentences together. “What do you want to be when you grow up?” they question us, eagerly waiting to hear what cute answer we’ll come up with.

But the inquiry doesn’t stop as we grow up - it just becomes a more pressured process. Everyone around us wants to know how to classify us so they can better understand us - and the easiest way is often through the job we will pursue.

But our jobs don’t define us.

As you can imagine, this conversation drives me crazy. We are so much more than our job - we are creatures that thrive when we are aligned with our purpose, not necessarily the role that gives us our paychecks. I also think putting the pressure of “figuring out” your life’s purpose on the shoulders of young people is unfair when we offer very few tools and processes to assist them in tapping into that knowing.

One of the most common reasons that my clients seek me out for private coaching is that they feel that they’ve failed - they’ve reached their mid-20s, mid-30s, mid-40s and don’t feel like they’ve ever accomplished this first daunting task of naming their purpose.

Their perceived failure in turn tanks their confidence and holds them back from jumping into the active creation of their life.

Remember this: “figuring out your purpose” isn’t a gate you must pass through before you’re allowed to live. Don’t make it into an obstacle that you obsess over and use to distract yourself from being happy, now.

I’m sharing with you today 5 ways you can align with your life’s purpose every. Single. Day. Even if you don’t know consciously what that purpose is. Practice living in alignment and be open to observing patterns that might draw you into a more clear understanding of the purpose, rather than continuing to bang your head against the wall.

Confused by the word alignment? I know it can be a little life-coach jargon-y. When I use the word alignment I’m talking about the holistic feel of your daily life. Our goal when we’re looking to get ourselves into alignment is to figure out what feels good, how we work best, and what we desire, and then to create a day that encapsulates those things as much as possible. It’s about being fully in tune with your body, mind and spirit and being willing to adjust your course throughout the day to attend to your needs.

  1. Decide on how you want to feel, right now - and name 2 things that make you feel that way in your daily life. Notice that the emphasis is on your experience - not an accomplishment! You don’t need to know your life end goal to recognize that you want to feel more peaceful and accomplished, now. Do more of those two things! This can start as a very simple process, and get more specific as you start to experiment with different feelings.

  2. Figure out how your brain and mind work. Start identifying what time of day you do your best work, when you are feeling least energetic, and how much sleep allows you to perform at your best. Everyone is different, and that’s part of why the traditional 9-5 doesn’t work for many of us. Resources like Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Daniel Amen and When by Daniel Pink can help you start on this journey. You need to know your unique make up in order to start shifting your daily experience to align with it!

  3. Journal. I know that I sound like a broken record, but journalling is the number one tool my clients use to uncover their growth edges between sessions. Focus on journalling with the intention of recording your experience - what made today beautiful? Where could I shift things tomorrow to feel better?

  4. Try on a life’s purpose. Let this be a fun experiment. If you have in mind 5-1500 different ideas of what your life’s purpose or your career path could be (they don’t have to be one and the same, but for many people they’re intertwined!) start by trying one of them on at a time. Put yourself in the space of that career or purpose early in the morning, and make all of your decisions throughout the day from that place. If you were trying on the role of travel blogger, for example - you wouldn’t grab breakfast at home. You’d probably grab a bite on your way out the door, find a cute cafe to work in, get a power hour or two of creative work done, and see some sites in the afternoon. You can try this lifestyle on on a Saturday and instantly feel whether it’s the experience itself you’re drawn to, or the imagined glamour of the role.

  5. Identify other power leaks in your life and resolve them. I mentioned earlier that the life purpose question tends to dominate our whole life - and it often feels like we need to solve it before we can address other, smaller things. Not true! In fact, the more you neatly resolve other conflicts in your life the more open you are to getting clear downloads about what comes next. So make a list! Where in your life are you feeling out of integrity with what you want? If you hate getting dressed in the morning because your clothes don’t fit or don’t express your current self, look at options to revamp the wardrobe! If you feel like you aren’t connecting with family and friends often enough, plug it into your calendar. Do anything you can to resolve ongoing power leaks - it will boost your confidence, help you act in alignment, and also give you ownership back over your experience.

Which of these alignment tricks are you going to try?! Be sure to follow the conversation on instagram @lauraweldy and tell me which ones you’re incorporating!

Peek inside a life coach's journal (& swipe my 14 favorite journalling prompts!)

In a hurry? Here’s what you need to know:

  • Using your morning time to intentionally design your mindset for the day can help you feel more in control of your experience & empowered to take more ownership.

  • Ask yourself questions that break your typical patterns of habit in order to uncover new ways of being.

  • Make your mindset time a daily routine for best results!

Ever wondered what the inside of a life coach's journal looks like? Steal some of my favorite prompts to mindfully start your day & get your mindset right! The Well Supported Woman - Women's Life Coach- Nashville, TN

I think there are some presumptions flying around about life coaches - that we always have our shit together, that we live #blessed lives, that we are never stressed, and that we have no fine lines or wrinkles.

I hate to break it to you - but being a life coach doesn’t mean that my life is picture perfect. Am I 1000% happier than I was in my old jobs? Yes. Do I still have struggles & growth edges? Of course!

What being a life coach does mean is that I have created a level of awareness around my experience that allows me to craft my days and my moods with intention.

Mindset might be a buzzword in 2019, but it’s long been a core consideration in the coaching world. As coaches, we believe that mindset has a huge influence on an individual’s day to day experience, because we’ve seen it first hand with our clients.

The perspective you have going into any situation impacts how you feel about the situation. If you show up to a client meeting stressed AF, you’re going to feel like they’re imposing on your time. If you show up to the same meeting feeling generous and fulfilled, you’re going to feel gratitude at the opportunity to connect with someone in your community. Do you feel the difference?

The kicker is this: if the way you experience the world is dictated by your state of mind, and you are in control of your thoughts - then you can, through careful mindset construction, create your own experience.

When I dove headfirst into personal development one of the very first breakthroughs I had was realizing that I wasn’t owning my own experience - but just spending my days responding to outside stimuli. I changed my perspective, decided that I was in charge, and created some tools to keep myself grounded in that reminder of the power of my say in the process.

I feel like no other coaches are acknowledging this, so I’ll spell it out: it’s important to acknowledge that mindset work isn’t about ignoring societal injustices, barriers & the impact of privilege and prejudices upon our life.

Instead, personal mindset work is an opportunity for any individual to take charge of their daily experience. It’s a process of empowerment in the face of these challenges, and allows us each to get our needs met internally so we can operate from our fullest power within the societal setting.

Intentional mindset work doesn’t prevent real-life challenges. What it does do is clear out the cobwebs of lingering doubts, fears, and the agenda of everyone around us so we can focus on what we need, want & can create.

Intention invites possibility.

I want everyone to have the ability to do this work - so I’m sharing a little sneak peek into my own journal today - so you can see the exact prompts and routine that I use to start my days out mindfully. Use these strategies and you can design your lifestyle with intention each morning, too!

Swipe these journalling prompts!

  1. On days that I want to feel peace & relaxation, I focus my morning time on prompts that keep me grounded & help me reflect on my accomplishments.

    • Pick one: What do I know to be true? Where can I appreciate myself more? What’s my current discontent trying to tell me? What am I ready to release responsibility for?

  2. On days that I want to feel focused & productive, I focus my morning time on identifying with absolute clarity where my energy will be most effective.

    • Pick one: Where can I make the biggest impact today? What am I trying to avoid via distraction? How would my higher self tackle the day?

  3. On days that I want to feel creative & inspired, I focus my morning mindset time on tapping into my intuition and developing self trust.

    • Pick one: What do I feel like I’m lacking - and how can I create it? If I knew what to say, what would it be? What would my future self want my current self to know? What message am I avoiding sharing?

  4. On days that I want to feel recharged & connected, I focus my morning mindset on asking the questions that connect me to the larger spiritual and human world.

    • What ripples do I want to create in the world? What am I missing? Where am I being called to show up for others?

I recommend setting aside 20 minutes to journal on a prompt, see what comes up, and wrap your mindset time by deciding and stating aloud exactly how you want to feel that day. If you want to take a journalling break, I also love a brief unguided meditation in the morning where I think about my intentions for the day, or I’ll try pulling oracle cards for inspiration! Try it for 30 days, and see how your experience changes!

3 no fail solutions to beat overwhelm

In a hurry? Here’s what you need to know now:

  • Overwhelm shouldn’t be a required part of your daily experience.

  • The opposite of overwhelm is presence - so practice some mindfulness to relieve the pressure

  • Overwhelm is all about mindset - it’s an excellent opportunity to look closely at your boundaries & expectations, and to realign your daily actions with your goals!

Overwhelm doesn't need to be your daily experience. Use these 3 no fail solutions to beat overwhelm when it strikes! The Well Supported Woman - Nashville Life Coach

Picture this: you open your eyes in the morning, pull back the covers, turn off that incessant alarm - and before your feet hit the ground your mind is already racing a mile a minute.

Only seconds have passed since you woke and already you’re feeling the weight of a million tasks that must be completed ASAP. You’re brushing your teeth and trying to ignore the sinking feeling in your gut that arises as you get closer to heading to work and that never-ending to do list. When you finally get to your desk, it’s like the hours fly by in a blurry mess of meetings, missed reminders and passed deadlines.

You’re overwhelmed. And it feels like a constant state of being for you these days.

The problem with living in a state of constant overwhelm is that it acts like a sponge, soaking up all of your time, energy and attention with manufactured urgency. It creates mind & body exhaustion, and leaves absolutely no space in your life for the things you’re craving - the opportunity to create, to explore, and to relax. Overwhelm is excellent at convincing us that everything and everyone is more important than our wellbeing and happiness - and it’s just not true.

There are a million different ideas to explain why we as women get overwhelmed - is it because we’re taught to take responsibility for others from a young age? Is it because we have more access to information and quicker workplace timelines than ever before? Is it because we’re not being realistic about the number of hours in the day? I’ll be honest that I can’t vouch for the specific answer (and I think it’s likely different for each of us!), but I can tell you that I’ve certainly experienced it - and have created a set of tools that allows me to beat it every time.

  1. Shift your mindset.

    When you start to feel overwhelmed, pause. We are not destined to be ruled by our knee jerk emotions, so I want you to consciously think about your options in the current moment. Do you want to feel overwhelmed? What feeling would you prefer? Is there a different way of showing up in the world today that would actually be more in service of your goals?

  2. Practice presence and focus.

    Overwhelm is constantly whispering distractions in our ear in order to keep us in the panicked spiral. When we are feeling overwhelmed, we’re often drawn to making long lists, learning more things or taking up new hobbies - but all these things do is add to the feeling of overwhelm! The opposite of overwhelm is presence. Focusing on a single task at a time and being in tune with your body and environment will help you to feel grounded as you start to complete past-due tasks. Some tools to try here would be mindful breathing, a 2 minute meditation, or turning off your phone to enable better focus, or doing some light stretching. Commit to only being present to the here and now - the rest can wait.

  3. Be willing to go deeper.

    Once you’ve gotten grounded and gained a little bit of headway on your task list, I’d encourage you to examine the way overwhelm operates in your life. Is it a habit that’s common for you? Does it occur around specific events or people? Is it one of your defense mechanisms? In my experience, overwhelm is simply an indication that I’m attempting to distract myself from a big, scary project, or that I don’t feel fully bought into the things I’m currently committed to. Be curious about what the experience of overwhelm is trying to tell you - and generate a few creative ways you can subtly shift your lifestyle to be more in alignment.

How can you integrate these tools into your daily life and beat overwhelm once and for all? Come over to Instagram and let me know!